Trust is a delicate thing. Once it gets broken, it’s so hard to put the pieces back together again. One representation is dining at a new restaurant for the first time with zero expectations. Once you discover that the food is bad, there’s a good chance you will never go back there again. They normally only get one opportunity to prove their worth.
I wonder, is it possible for a person to love another who is close to him or her, but not to trust anymore?
For instance, I love my Dad and would do anything for him. But I can never trust him with money again. There’s a long story behind this statement — don’t worry, I won’t bore you with it. Let’s just say that when Dad gets a hold of some cash, Dad deposits it straight into the Casino. And Dad can’t be stopped!
I also have this friend that I’ve known for six years. One time, he borrowed money from me and he promised to pay me back immediately. Now it’s two years later and every time I ask him about it, he tells me that I really don’t need the money so why am I pressuring him to pay up? Then a few months ago, he bugged me to lend him some cash again. He said he’ll just return it after two weeks. Of course I’ve already learned my lesson, so I told him no. I love that friend of mine and I still enjoy hanging out with him, but I will never trust him again. Especially since he has also done this to two of my friends.
These two scenarios just happened to involve “money”, but the catalysts for failing someone’s trust could be anything: infidelity in a relationship, dishonesty between a parent and a child, betrayal between friends, slandering at the work place to get ahead, spreading gossips at church or school, deceit by an establishment or company to cause consumers to believe what is false, fraudulent behavior of an agent toward a client, false hopes given by an employer to an employee, and more.
So going back to my question, is it possible for a person to love another who is close to him or her, but not to trust anymore? I think it is. I love so many people close to me but not all of them I can trust.
I love the church where they got married because it’s small, which made the wedding ceremony more solemn and sentimental, as opposed to those big churches that make everyone seem far away from each other. While Mae and I were taking pictures of the couple, we can’t help but say “Awww” and imagine our own weddings someday. Hee. Their love for each other is inspiring.