I used to think that a scenario like this only happens in movies or cheesy soap operas, but ever since my two best friends got into their own you-betrayed-me and why-can’t-you-just-be-happy-for-me kind of war, with me torn in the middle, I couldn’t help but think that we’re living in our version of a teenybopper TV series. lol
Hiram Part Two
Yes, I know we’re no longer teens, but this war actually started over four years ago. We were the inseparable trio, we even called ourselves the Charmed sisters (which was a hit back then). They’re the best friends anyone could ask for. We always did stuff together like playing Volleyball or teaching in Sunday School or shopping (well, they loved shopping, I just didn’t want to be stuck at home :D) or going on a vacation by ourselves — It was really fun! But that was until the day one of my best friends (let’s call her Anne Curtis) broke up with her long-time boyfriend (let’s call him Geoff Eigenmann) and found out later that her Ex and our other best friend (let’s call her Heart Evangelista) have been sort of “seeing each other” for the last few months, even before the breakup. That drove Anne up the wall because one, she was still in love with her Ex at that time, and two, she was hurt because she felt her own best friend betrayed her. Heart defended herself by saying that there was nothing going on, they were just friends. I think that’s true for the earlier part, but they still ended up together anyway.
Me? I was stuck in the middle. I didn’t want to choose a side since I wanted to be the understanding, objective kind of friend (hah!) but because I’m not perfect and I also have my own opinion about what happened I sort of leaned toward the other which consequently led the other one to think that I too betrayed her by siding with the other one (Are you with me?). I tell ya, it was one helluva drama.
We tried fixing the problem so many times but it was just so hard to do. Whenever I was with Heart, Anne would get jealous. And whenever I was with Anne, Heart would get paranoid. Now it’s four years later, Anne is together with her childhood sweetheart (Let’s call him Oyo Boy Sotto. They have a beautiful love story, you should hear about it. :D ) for almost 3 years now, Heart and Geoff are going on their 4th year together, and I — I’ve moved out of home 3 years ago (but not to escape all the “fun” with my best friends, I swear) and have spent lesser time with both of them.. You would think that we’ve all moved on, but no. The past still finds a way to haunt me.
After months of not seeing each other, Heart and I had a time to catch up on things again two days ago. There were many significant and trivial things to talk about so I made sure I steered clear of any topics related to our barkada’s “lost friendship”. And yet, it seemed that topic would just never go undiscussed. Heart still feels frustrated in trying to patch things up with Anne (after all these years!), and Anne, who I text with from time to time, is firm with the fact that she doesn’t mind if she’s one friend less.
And me? I’m waiting for time to pass. I know it’s only a matter of time before both of them will give our lost friendship another chance. That would be the day when all of us are mature enough to leave the past behind and accept each other’s shortcomings. I long for that day. Who knows? Maybe we can all hang out together with Geoff and Oyo Boy in one room! Haha
We used to say that if we three had children of our own someday, we also want them to be friends. I’m still looking forward to that. :)
The Moral of the Story
Think twice before going for your best friend’s Ex. You’ll never know how hard the blow (and how long the recovery period) is until your best friend starts to snub you and send cuss words your way (lol). But if you’re the best friend who was cheated on, let it go and just be happy for your best friend. It’s been years. What she did to you only meant that you were supposed to be with someone else who’s gonna love you more than your Ex ever did.
Easier said than done? Yeah, that’s what I said too. :P
Hmmm… mejo karelate ko.. I broke up with a long time boyfriend and ended with his bandmate… teeeehee¤ as in my long time exbf went mad (but didn’t show it to me, his friends who happens also to be my friends keeps on updating me that he went mad and he honestly told them he was hurt) toinkz! sya bala namaya tapos awayon nya ko yah na nasakitan sya kay i’m going out with his friend.. haller! hahaha :) haaay life, it’s better to be single… wala libog, wala gasto.. hehehe :) pero syempre, i’m waiting for my prince charming to come..
mafix gid na jons ah.. i still believe na makay-o pa na.. d pa guro time :) take care joni! :)
Hehe mahilig ka sa drama?
Hmm, sabihin mo sa friends mo dami-dami lalaki diyan. Pag di nagpapaawat hayaan mo na magrambol. LOL.
Ang ganda ganda naman ng theme mo. :)
:heart: Well, no man or boy is worth fighting over… :upsidedown:
=)
Sowee Joni! I’ll prolly have to side with “Anne” on this one. I can appreciate the fact(oid) that “Heart” and “Geoff” hit it off while the latter was still on with “Anne,” but it’s just pure carelessness and selfish abandon to have let their secret seep out no matter what. I’m not saying they’re evil, I’m saying they could’ve waited for their best friend and girlfriend’s sake – it’s never nice to be on that kind of receiving end. Dalawa na nga silang deep ang relasyon kay “Anne” eh, that should have made a difference.
Hey, all this with how you delivered the story lang ah! Baka hindi mo na ako bigyan ng project after neto? Wahahaha.
Oh and about your lack of sleep, the second (sub) title of this entry alone tells us why. Hahaha bleah.
I don’t want to side to anyone xe at first di ko naman cla kila2 and cguro all of them naman ay may mali…cguro hindi p tlga time pra mgkaayos cla…time heal all wounds nga db so surely mgi2ng okay din lhat nd mre2alize nila ung mga mali nila and ung pngsamahan nila lalo n ngaun na happy naman cla with their partners…malay mo after 5 years you’ll just see your daughter or son na nki2pag-laro sa mga children nila…hehehe…you just don’t know what will happened next…
idol ang post mo!! haha!!! sadja!!! haha!!!
If Anne’s with Oyo, she must have moved on already. She could forgive Heart and Geoff and forget about the past. And Heart should do the same thing to/for Anne. If you really value your friendship and if you love your friend, especially your best friend, it would just be easy to forgive and forget.
Anyway, have to agree with what Ying said. No man or boy is worth fighting over. Yun lang. Ha!
Hindi pa pala tapos tong storyang to? Hehe. Duh as if naman marami akong alam. Pero hehe. It’s really hard to put back together a broken vase, if you know what im saying. (Of course you do.) Pero ang sad naman.. ganun ba talaga yun..? Pano naman if meant-to-be tlaga si Heart and Geoff di ba. Cant Anne just be happy that her best friend ended with someone who’s also close to her heart?
Uhm. Wala lang. Ninuninuni. :P
really great story
I would never ever date somebody who is my friends ex’s.. prang awkward and it feels like betrayal in my frens side.. hallerr!! ayoko nga…. pra taga salo kalang sa mga tira tira jan… NEVER!!
Sad to lose your best friend…I fell for my best friend’s ex and he felt the same way about me…we’re dating now, I love him but I can’t enjoy our love because of the friend I’ve lost….
Haha, Im currently going through the same thing [and you'd be amazed by how this helped]. My only difference is that it’s my cousin’s ex, and it wasn’t the guy who initiated the break-up, it was my cousin. And though the guy tried to get back with her, she refused. Now that I’ve shown up into the picture, she seems to like him again…..I dunno what to do?